This month I am writing a series on Instagram for women going through separation or divorce. Each day I post a verse or two of scripture and a short reflection. On Saturdays I post the full week here for those who aren’t into Instagram (cause I hear these people do exist). The series introduction and a list of posts can be found here.
Today I’m a day late getting my weekly post up because I was busy having SO MUCH fun with my best friend and her family this weekend. They drove up from beautiful Charleston, South Carolina to visit us and were our first overnight guests in our new home. Not only did they come to visit, but they came to work. They insisted on helping me tile a backsplash in my kitchen and I loved learning this new DIY skill. Our kids had a wonderful time together and we laughed just as much as we worked. Tonight I am going to bed grateful for the blessing of friends who become family. Before I get into my post, check out my new backslash:
Thanks for indulging me. Now on to this week’s posts:
And Moses said to the people, “Fear not, stand firm, and see the salvation of the Lord,which he will work for you today. For the Egyptians whom you see today, you shall never see again. The Lord will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.”
The Lord gave me this scripture in the very early stages of the turmoil in my marriage. I was teaching a ladies Bible study at the base chapel and the study brought us Israelites standing beside the Red Sea seemingly trapped between death by the Egyptian sword and death by drowning. God had been leading them as a pillar of cloud by day and pillar of fire at night. They had seen him work incredible miracles to get them this far but now they were once again terrified and not sure that they could trust him. Father God was merciful in that He didn’t ask them to jump at that moment. He only asked them to stand still and be silent. Then God, the form of the pillar of cloud moved behind them and stood between the Israelites and their enemies while He parted the sea and made a way where there seemed to be no way.
I think that aside from direct stories about my Savior, this is my favorite account in the Bible. It is a beautiful picture of our Father God guiding and protecting us even when we don’t see a way. And did you catch the promise? “The Egyptians whom you see today, you shall never see again.” This trial, this moment of terror played an important part in shaping the Israelites walk with their God, but this was a point where He said, “Enough. The Egyptians will terrorize my children no more.”
I believe with all my heart God does this for us as well. Sometimes a heart softens to His touch and He heals the marriage and they move on together to build on Jesus. Other times a heart is hard, as Pharoah’s was, and God moves His child out of harm’s way.
God didn’t require the Israelites to jump when they were paralyzed by fear, He simply told them to stand still and be silent. This is not easy either. I remember the months that I had to sit in silence — months of not answering harsh words or lies with the witty retorts that popped into my mind. I wanted to move and make things happen. Some days I wanted to run back and beg. But God is faithful. After the silence, He made a way. He will make a way for you as well. Whether your marriage ends up healed or not — He will lead you safely Home.
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
When I attended a divorce support group they told us that when you are going through a separation or divorce, something like 95 percent of your energy is spent simply trying to manage your emotions. This leaves only 5 percent of your total energy for the physical and mental challenges of your day.
Mondays are tough even during our best years, so today I am praying that you walk in the truth that your God is with you wherever you go. You can be strong and courageous because He is on your side. He’s already conquered death so there is nothing this day can throw at Him that He can’t handle.
Behold, I am doing a new thing;
now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?
I will make a way in the wilderness
and rivers in the desert.
This morning I stepped out into an autumn chill to walk my dog and for the first time this year I could see my breath rise up in front of me. Those simple puffs of air sent a thrill through my entire being. The leaves are falling and I am once again filled with wonder that God can make death look so beautiful.
It is much more difficult to rejoice as the seasons of our lives change but God is doing a new thing there as well. Sometimes that means walking through painful changes but just as we see God’s glory in the blaze of fall colors, someday you will look back and see His glory painted all over even this part of your story. He is doing a new thing!
I believe that I shall look upon the goodness of the Lord
in the land of the living!
Wait for the Lord;
be strong, and let your heart take courage;
wait for the Lord!
Today may be dark but if you look for the goodness of the Lord, you will find it. Perhaps you will find it in the kindness of a stranger, the color of a fall leaf, or the kiss of your child. He is here and He is good. Gather up those simple moments and give thanks.
And though the Lord give you the bread of adversity and the water of affliction, yet your Teacher will not hide himself anymore, but your eyes shall see your Teacher. And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left.
Several months after I had discovered my husband’s most recent infidelity, I also discovered that even though I had stayed and done everything I could think of to help heal our marriage, he was still seeing the other woman. I called my mother in tears. I didn’t know what to do. I couldn’t change his heart. I just wanted God to send me a clear message. My mother sent me this verse after we hung up the phone. Sometimes we don’t get a clear directional sign but we can count on the Holy Spirit to convict or confirm our steps as we take them.
God hates divorce, but He did allow for it. He knows that because we have free will, some of us will choose to be unfaithful and emotionally or physically abusive. If you are unsure about what to do, I urge you to find a good Christian counselor. And by “good,” I mean a counselor who will walk you through ALL the scriptures on separation and divorce and not simply “God hates divorce.” If you can’t afford one, many churches can offer assistance with this. I also highly recommend Dr. James Dobson’s book “Love Must Be Tough.”
Today I am praying that you will hear that still small voice as you take a step in faith. Wherever He leads is good.
My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
Your story is written and the end is good. You may be experiencing a plot twist, but your happy ending was purchased by the blood of Jesus and nothing can take it away.
Have you not known? Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He does not faint or grow weary;
his understanding is unsearchable.
He gives power to the faint,
and to him who has no might he increases strength.
Even youths shall faint and be weary,
and young men shall fall exhausted;
but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength;
they shall mount up with wings like eagles;
they shall run and not be weary;
they shall walk and not faint.
Amen and amen. Enjoy your flight today, my friend.