Happy Saturday, friends! This morning I was up at 6:15, at the grocery store by 7:00, hit the gym at 7:30, and met the internet guy at the house at 8:30. I feel like I just packed a full day into a couple of hours! Such is the life of a single, working mom. I know a lot of you get it. So sitting here sipping my coffee and writing has been a little breather in my day. I hope you enjoy this week’s posts. I am off to start laundry and clean the house. Have a happy weekend!
In case you miss it, this month I am writing a series on Instagram for women going through separation or divorce. Each day I post a verse or two of scripture and a short reflection. On Saturdays I post the full week here for those who aren’t into Instagram (cause I hear these people do exist). The series introduction and a list of posts can be found here.
And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
And he who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Also he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” And he said to me, “It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. To the thirsty I will give from the spring of the water of life without payment. The one who conquers will have this heritage, and I will be his God and he will be my son.”
C.S. Lewis wrote, “If I find in myself desires which nothing in this world can satisfy, the only logical explanation is that I was made for another world.”
We were made for another world — a world without tears or death or divorce and Jesus has a made a way for us to be there. “Write this down.” This is truth. This is hope.
And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.
I Peter 5:10
When you are walking through the pain of a separation or divorce it can feel as though you will never again wake up without your situation on your mind but I am here to tell you that this is not true. God can and will use this to mold you into a better version of yourself — one who looks a little more like Christ. I love the words “the God of all grace.” What a beautiful gift it is to start the week in His presence.
I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.
I love how the whole Bible — even the Old Testament — is just one giant love story that points us to Jesus. Even though God was speaking to Jacob in this instance, Jesus chose basically the same words to speak as His last words on earth, “And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” (Matthew 28:20)
When you are walking through separation or divorce it is tempting to hold onto the hope of a better life with another person. You want to believe that this is the “broken road” leading you to “the one.” I would like to encourage you to look at this broken road as leading to The One and building you into the one He created you to be. Relationships with people will always be broken in one way or another but Jesus never breaks His promises and never walks away. Instead of starting your search for a knight on a white horse, spend some time getting to know the Prince of Peace.
When the earth and all its people quake, it is I who hold its pillars firm.
No matter what happens today, rest on the promises of our unshakable, immovable, unchangeable God.
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
II Corinthians 4:16-18
I think one thing a separation or divorce most definitely teaches us is that what is seen is temporary and that can be a very unsettling feeling at first. However, if you stop to think about it, this is comforting because nothing here is perfect. Everything is flawed and slowly (or rapidly) decaying but we weren’t made for this world. The disappointments and discouragements of this life are temporary. The peace and joy and faithfulness of the God of Grace are eternal. Fix your eyes on these things are you walk through this Thursday.
If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
I wrote this verse in my journal just 24 hours after I returned to the US from a trip back to the UK to collect our belongings because my husband had chosen the other woman. To this day that hop across the pond feels completely surreal. It was like an out-of-body experience that I watched instead of actually lived.
As I began to search for a job, get the kids enrolled in the school, and rebuild our lives, I found myself just deeply missing my home in the green countryside of the UK. I’ve used a lot of stock photos for this series, but this is a photo I took in the land I loved. This is a place I was blessed to call home.
These verses spoke to my heart in a special way as I mourned the loss of home and family. I hope they speak to you today. Even here He holds you fast.
To the faithful you show yourself faithful,
to the blameless you show yourself blameless,
to the pure you show yourself pure,
but to the devious you show yourself shrewd.
You save the humble
but bring low those whose eyes are haughty.
You, Lord, keep my lamp burning;
my God turns my darkness into light.
With your help I can advance against a troop;
with my God I can scale a wall.
In today’s church we often talk about God’s love and mercy and I believe that is important. However, when you are going through a painful experience that involves betrayal, it is both comforting and sobering to know that our God is also just. Know this, we pray for repentance and weep over their sin but we are able to do this because we know that ultimately, our God will deal with the wrong. We must daily give the hurt to Him and trust in His justice as much as His love.