Welcome, friend. Six years ago infidelity ripped my marriage apart. We were a military family living overseas far from family and as a Christian I struggled to discern how Christ would have me deal with the situation. I searched my Bible from cover to cover begging God to tell me what to do. Most days it felt as if He was completely silent. I would often hide in the bathroom, cry on the floor, and turn on the shower in hopes that my children wouldn’t hear the sobbing. I walked through the rest of my day like a zombie, performing necessary tasks but always thinking about this catastrophic thing that had happened to me instead of the grocery list or the parent/teacher conference. I wanted God to ride in on a white horse and change my husband’s heart. I wanted my happily ever after to include the family I had planned. Any other ending was unthinkable. I had been a stay at home mother for ten years. I didn’t have a college degree and I didn’t have a resumé. I had no idea how we would survive if He didn’t save my marriage.
What I learned in those days is that God doesn’t always give us a plan but He does give us promises — so many beautiful promises — and these words have the power to sustain me. These verses guided me into small steps of obedience and taught me how to do the next right thing. Sometimes that meant getting back up off the bathroom floor, wiping my tears, splashing some water on my face, and going out to make dinner for the little people He had given me. Other times it meant answering a biting word with gentleness. It often meant that I was silent when I wanted to scream the truth at those who judged me.
I didn’t get the fairy tale I had planned, but over the past six years I have learned to love His story. The Author of Life is a much bigger dreamer than I am and He isn’t finished writing yet. If you are going through a separation or divorce — this 31 Days series is for you. Each day I will share a verse on Instagram that encouraged me while I was floundering in those deep, dark places and a few words about what it meant to me. I pray that you will see and and cling to the promises. These words do not change like the sand of your life. Here you can stand firm. On this Rock you can rest secure.
“For the word of the Lord is right and true;
He is faithful in all He does.
The Lord loves righteousness and justice;
The earth is full of His unfailing love.”
Note: Each Saturday I will combine the scripture verses from the week into a blog post and link them here: